We may not have a house to impress (okay, we don't even have a house)... but this is my favorite place in the world. Sitting on our DI couch next to that hunk.
So I read this article the other day and it got me thinking about my life and the big decisions I have made thus far. In Mormon culture, marriage at age 21 was totally appropriate. I mean, I was old in some people's terms! A lot of LDS brides don't even blink an eye when they commit to eternity at a ripe young age of 18. 18.... What if I had gotten married at age 18? I would've just barely started college. I would've been working my part-time job at Great Harvest bread company. I would've had about $5 to my name and had an awful spending problem. I would've married the complete jerk that I was dating. Yada yada yada. The list goes on and on about all of the issues about being a child bride. But in our society (in general). 21 is also incredibly young to be married. According to some people, that's just when you are starting to find yourself & find your spot in the world. According to them, I haven't had time to travel. I haven't decided who or what I want to be yet. I haven't found my place in the world. I haven't experienced a bunch or relationships so I don't know what I want in a man. I haven't had time to finish school. I haven't even decided what I even want to study in school. I haven't had a good job. I haven't made enough money. I haven't built a life that's just mine. I haven't put roots down anywhere. I should've dated a ton more guys. I should've had sex before marriage. I should've gone to fun, crazy parties... because isn't that what an adventure is? Isn't that what life is all about? Well I'm here to say that its not. Its not even close. You know what? I studied abroad and travelled to my little hearts desire. I've lived in Paris and Jerusalem. I've been to Japan, Czech Republic, Italy, Turkey, Germany, Belgium, Spain, Jordan, England... not to mention the places just in the US that I was able to visit. I completed a triathlon and 2 half marathons. I've been fat, chubby, skinny and everywhere in between. I've found my little health niche and I strive everyday to be happy with the body and who I am (Something that will never end- single or married). I've always known what I want to do with my life. I want to be a mom (with a college degree.. of course.) I want and am striving to be a righteous Latter-day Saint. I know my place in the world. My place is wherever my better half is. I don't need everyone to know my name. Heck, the only person who really needs to know all about me is Skylor. What he knows about me and see about me is SO much more important than anyone else's opinion of me. I could fade into the background of everyone else and not care. Just as long as I'm front and center in his life. I have experienced plenty of heartbreaks, jerks, players and just straight up mean people. Trust me, I knew everything that I DIDNT want in a guy. So when Skylor came along and showed me that he wasn't anything like I had dated before... well he had me hook, line and sinker. I wasn't able to say exactly what I wanted... but I definitely knew exactly what I didn't want in a man (all those heartbreaks paid off- I appreciate everything about Skylor. He's an extremely good man). Between school and money, I don't know where to begin. I am almost finished with my degree & I hope to start pursuing a career next year. I am so grateful to have so much support from my husband during the final stretch- I wouldn't have it any other way. Skylor and I spent the whole last summer apart to earn money for our life together. It was hard & it was a sacrifice but we are grateful that we did it. We have a pretty beefed up bank account (for newly-weds that are still students) and we don't have any debt. When shopping for cars we shopped within our budget. We didn't take out a loan that was more than we could afford. If we needed to, we could pay off our cars with cash right now. Yes, both of them.
To make a long blog post even longer, I am SO glad that I got married when I did. I wouldn't trade a second either way. I learned a lot before I got married and I have learned a lot since I got married. Skylor really is the love of my life. I am so glad that I've found him and that he can love me the way I ought to be loved. And I can love him the way he should be loved too. Our life together is so much more fulfilling together than it would be apart. There is NOTHING that can replace what the right person brings into your life.
The only thing that I would've liked to be different was I wish I had met him sooner, so that I could love him longer.
Thanks for being the peanut butter to my chocolate, sweetie. I wouldn't trade a second of the time that I get to spend by your side.